res ipsa.....

On the way to court with The Client in his M7, I suddenly found myself “defending” polygamous marriage.

I surprise myself, I kid you not, I’m a married woman and I could never share my only one.

But I felt the notion of legitimacy of polygamous marriage had been taken advantage by lustful men, and them using “religious” sanction makes me nauseous.

Don’t use religion to spearhead your lust.
Its digusting and smears our religion.

Same goes for everything that uses “religion” as an excuse to do something.
Didn’t someone say the road to hell is paved with “good” intentions?

The reasoning behind the polygamous marriage, I must concur, is something beyond my emotional understanding.
Even Ali never married anyone else but Fatimah, as the Prophet knows it'll hurt his beloved daughter.

But I believe there must be good reasons why God permits it.
Asbab—my little brain reasoned it by relating at the history when the Prophet (peace be upon him) practiced polygamous marriage to widows, older than him and needful of protection – seems to answer it all. I posted some time ago that if you want to berpoligami, you have to be a superman.

But I suppose modern logic thinking dismiss possible outbreak of war (yeah right), as I was furiously explaining this to The Client, that polygamous marriage would deter “extra-marital” affairs which would break a family institution.

The Client then refuted saying most of his Malay friends hides away the second,third etc wives far from the knowledge of the First Family, he said its like keeping a mistress.

To this I said, the practice of Malay Muslim men of marrying in Siam for their consecutive marriage in secret, would “defeat the purpose” of polygamous marriage- no way it would be "adil" for any of the family, not even for the consecutive wives.

If it is not wrong, why hide it, like a crime?
And when the secret is out, all hell break loose.

Don’t this all put the practice of polygamous marriage in a bad light?

So first thing first: It must be done correctly.
Truth must be spoken.
Justice must be done.

But it seems, to expedite their passage of lust, Malay Muslim men would skip fast forward the “correct” procedures.

What riles me the most is they (ada hati lagi) to question why are they blamed when they're just following the Prophetic Sunnah of polygamous marriage?

Konpem la pasal tak ikut Sunnah Nabi A to Z.
Ni lompat katak ambil Z, memang ler.

Sudah terang lagi bersuluh. The thing speak for itself. Res ipsa Loquitor.