Monday, June 15, 2009

res ipsa.....

On the way to court with The Client in his M7, I suddenly found myself “defending” polygamous marriage.

I surprise myself, I kid you not, I’m a married woman and I could never share my only one.

But I felt the notion of legitimacy of polygamous marriage had been taken advantage by lustful men, and them using “religious” sanction makes me nauseous.

Don’t use religion to spearhead your lust.
Its digusting and smears our religion.

Same goes for everything that uses “religion” as an excuse to do something.
Didn’t someone say the road to hell is paved with “good” intentions?

The reasoning behind the polygamous marriage, I must concur, is something beyond my emotional understanding.
Even Ali never married anyone else but Fatimah, as the Prophet knows it'll hurt his beloved daughter.

But I believe there must be good reasons why God permits it.
Asbab—my little brain reasoned it by relating at the history when the Prophet (peace be upon him) practiced polygamous marriage to widows, older than him and needful of protection – seems to answer it all. I posted some time ago that if you want to berpoligami, you have to be a superman.

But I suppose modern logic thinking dismiss possible outbreak of war (yeah right), as I was furiously explaining this to The Client, that polygamous marriage would deter “extra-marital” affairs which would break a family institution.

The Client then refuted saying most of his Malay friends hides away the second,third etc wives far from the knowledge of the First Family, he said its like keeping a mistress.

To this I said, the practice of Malay Muslim men of marrying in Siam for their consecutive marriage in secret, would “defeat the purpose” of polygamous marriage- no way it would be "adil" for any of the family, not even for the consecutive wives.

If it is not wrong, why hide it, like a crime?
And when the secret is out, all hell break loose.

Don’t this all put the practice of polygamous marriage in a bad light?

So first thing first: It must be done correctly.
Truth must be spoken.
Justice must be done.

But it seems, to expedite their passage of lust, Malay Muslim men would skip fast forward the “correct” procedures.

What riles me the most is they (ada hati lagi) to question why are they blamed when they're just following the Prophetic Sunnah of polygamous marriage?

Konpem la pasal tak ikut Sunnah Nabi A to Z.
Ni lompat katak ambil Z, memang ler.

Sudah terang lagi bersuluh. The thing speak for itself. Res ipsa Loquitor.

11 comments:

you can't afford me 15 June 2009 at 20:32:00 GMT+8  

marahnya dia....

tapi with good reasons kan? leave the prophet out from your lustful excuses. apehal la plak tibe2 nak jadi alim bab2 meng-defend diri sendiri.

~salwaredzuan~ 15 June 2009 at 22:16:00 GMT+8  

ayat cliche aku bila bhadapan dgn lelaki ygberpoligami gn alasan itu adalah sunah..

"encik semayang sunat rawatib tak ikiyt sunah?encik semayang tak berjemaah tiap kali waktu solat tiba?encik pernah tinggal tak solat dhuha?..sebab kalau encik nak tau, ini juga sunah nabi, yang tak pernah sama sekali baginda tinggalkan"

ade satu lelaki tu muka terus merah padam..kakakaka..tp mmg ramai je muslim yg br blaja satu dua potong ayat quran, without knowing the asbab an-nuzul, dh ade hati mau bhujah ..kesian jugak

mr K 15 June 2009 at 22:50:00 GMT+8  

jgn marah2...^_^

abg tak wat camtu..janji. byk lagi sunnah lain..setuju!

"sorong papan tarik papan,
buah keranji dalam perahu,
suruh makan engkau makan,
suruh mengaji engkau tak tahu."

org sekarang tau makan je.. ;)

Anonymous,  16 June 2009 at 10:40:00 GMT+8  

لم تخلق المرأة من رأس الرجل لئلا تتعالى عليه، ولا من رجله لئلا يحتقرها، بل استلها من ضلعه لتكون تحت جناحه فيحميها و قريبة إلى قلبه فيحبها

amicus curiae 16 June 2009 at 13:22:00 GMT+8  

apo nak dikato....

kan mmg orang kata jangan ambil Islam setengah setengah,yang lain tinggal.

apa eh orang arab kat bawah ni kata? anyone??

midnight blue eyed 17 June 2009 at 16:11:00 GMT+8  

when he says he has the "religious right" to do so, he must have left "moral right" out of it.

midnight blue eyed 17 June 2009 at 16:11:00 GMT+8  

when he says he has the "religious right" to do so, he must have left "moral right" out of it.

Areej,  20 June 2009 at 00:40:00 GMT+8  

nabi dah tunjuk sbnrnya mcmana utk hidup berumahtangga. baginda tak pernah kawin lain waktu khadijah masih hidup. khadijah his real true love. betapa baginda saaaayang sgt kat khadijah...sampai khadijah dah takde pon sokmo sebut2 nama khadijah. betapa dia setia dgn khadijah seorang.
but, no, people nowadays tak tgk semua tu as sunnah yg rasul nak tunjukkan kpd kite. people nowadays tak ikut sunnah yg tu. yg orang nampak is how rasul kawen ramai lepas itu. but it is to be noted that happened after khadijah dah takde. and you can never apply the same ruling pasal marriage rasulullah dgn marriage manusia biasa cam kita ni. becoz ruling dia tak sama. so in my opinion all this cakap2 orang pasal kawen lebih dr sorang itu adalah ikut sunnah nabi is rubbish.
sorry beb, aku cam panas skit.
bukan panas psl entry mu...aku panas sokmo klu pasal issue polygamy nih...coz ramai org kat luar sana yg tak mengerti...n use religion utk justify bende diorg buat mcm mu cakap...

amicus curiae 22 June 2009 at 12:26:00 GMT+8  

areej ku sayang,
bak kata Prof kamali...nk mengharamkan poligami tu haram,tapi nak mempraktikkan poligami kene la ikut syarat.termasuklah kene tengok 'urf,budaya,keadaan kuarga,kewangan,etc.bukan sukati senang2.

encik midnight,
moral is a part of religion.

Areej 23 June 2009 at 10:21:00 GMT+8  

yea...thats true, aku sokong. and aku bukan against polygamy. aku rasa mmg perlu pon ada nya law yg membolehkan polgamy. utk protect interest of women lah. klu nk cerita psl tu pjg lah kan. maksud aku yg aku geram td, ramai yg berpolygamy n claim that they are tgh ikut sunnah nabi...yg tu aku x setuju....

k,af...sblm aku habiskan space blog ko..baik aku g makan...hehee...bubbye

amicus curiae 23 June 2009 at 10:43:00 GMT+8  

ala areej..

kalau bukan ko dan few others...dah takde siapa jenguk dah blog ku ini.

makan makan makan je keje ko ni :D

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